Today was the day. Today I would be married to L and be Mrs. L.J. I had everything set and was ready. Little did I know that soem friends had some other plans for us on our special day.
The day before our special day, we got 15 inches of snow. I was devastated because I thought that not that many people would come to our little gathering. I woke up that friday morning and went to the mall by myself to pick up a couple of last minute things for myself. I already had a nice long jean skirt that I wanted to wear but I needed a nice sweater to go with it. I was able to find one and some pretty pins for my hijab. My sister was already at my house helping me to get ready for my night. When I got home, she was smiling while telling me that there was something delivered to the house for me. I had no idea what it was. I put my bags away and I see that it is a delivery from Edible Arrangements. I was excited to see what it was and who it was from. It was a bag and inside of the bad was a cute little teddy bear and a red box with huge chocolate strawberries in it. There was a note on top of the box. So I sat on the couch with one strawberry in my hand and in the other hand was the note. As I enjoyed the strawberry, I realized the note and the strawberries and bear were from my best friend who lives in New York. She wasn't able to join me in Philly so she would be viewing the festivities later that night on OOVOO. I was so happy that she thought to send me something and helped to make this day so special for me.
I had a couple of other things to do through out the day and I talked to L on the phone numerous amounts of time. You can hear in his voice how excited he was. This date was also our letter anniversary. This was one year from the date that I wrote that first letter to L. We thought it was even more special that we chose this day to be married. It made me even more happy that I chose to write that first letter to him. I was to marry my best friend and I couldn't be any happier.
Around 5pm that evening there was a knock at the door. I answered it and seen a guy with flowers. I was stumped once again as to who the flowers could be from. I found another note on the flowers and seen that they were from a woman whom I had met on a "prisoners wives" support group that I am in (Prisontalk.com)She sent me some colorful roses as well as some bath beads and aroma therapy candles. I definately felt love from all of my friends who live outside of Pa who were there to make my day much more special for me.
As the time came for me to start getting ready, I was a nervous wreck. I took a long bubble bath with candels and rose petals in it. That was able to relax me and take me to another zone. I was ready. When I was done getting dressed and putting on the last finishing touches, I went downstairs to whom awaited me. My sister and my friends were all there sitting around the table with the phone and the computer. I hooked up the computer to show my bff listening in and watching closely. My mom took a cab home and made it just in time for L to call to get things started. When he called I put him on speaker phone and the ceremony began.
The Imam started off asking us both questions and making sure that we both knew what it was that we were doing and that no one was forcing this on us. Then he started to speak in Arabic and it just sounded so beautiful. Hearing him bless our union brought tears to my eyes. I couldn't stop smiling. I looked around me and everyone else was crying lol. My mom was the biggest baby of them all. After the ceremony was done, the Imam went on to speak to me and L on a more personal level. He said to us that this won't be easy. And not all will agree with our decision to marry. But that we have to be strong and have faith that we will overcome this hurdle (prison) and come out in the end on top. I felt so confident about my marriage.
After the ceremony was over, L stayed on the line a little while longer and spoke to my family and friends. It was a lovely night. We had planned to meet again for our honeymoon later that night.
This is the part that I was nervous about. I have read many stories where women who had married their husbands in prison were devastated that night because of them not being able to spend that night with their new husband. I didn't want our special day to be like that. I didn't want to be happy all day and then cry all night because he wasn't there with me. So me and L talked about how our night would end before our special day had came. We agreed that late that night he would call me and we would be together behind closed doors. I won't say anything else. I will just say that I went to bed that night with a smile on my face and that I woke up with one as well.
Well, that was our special day. It was a lovely one. The snow didn't stop it and neither did the distance. I would do it again the same way if I had the chance. I had everyone that I love there with me and our union was blessed ten times over. We believe that we are still in the honeymoom phase lol. I love L so much.
Our 1 year anniversary is coming up shortly and we are super excited to have been married for one year. I still can't stop smiling...
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